3 Easy Steps : Step 1- A Simple Life (continued 2)
S T E P O N E - KEEP YOUR LIFE SIMPLE (continued 2)
- LAUGH MORE OFTEN.
Laughing helps keep things simple.
When a problem presents itself, you have two options: to worry, or to laugh some while dealing with it.
Worrying often blows things out of proportion.
Laughing makes even big problems seem easy to solve.
We do not mean to treat problems lightly, but we need to neutralize an explosive situation with laughter, and then proceed calmly to deal with it.
Once you eliminate the tension, you can assess the situation with clarity and ease of mind.
With a clear mind, you will find that the situation involves something you really don’t need, and that the permanent and REAL solution is to get rid of that unneeded “something” in your life.
One family was so bothered by how their DVD player always literally burned any disk they put in it. They had spent a big sum having it repaired, to no avail.
They sought out the opinion of a friend — would they continue to have it repaired, or buy a new one?
Continuing the repairs will seem a fruitless project, and they couldn’t afford to buy a new one.
The friend asked them though, “Will you die without a DVD player?”
The family stared at the floor for a while and then looked at each other. Then they broke into wild laughter.
The friend asked them again, “Will you?”
Then he added, “You know, there are lots of families out there who live happily just watching the TV.”
Many of your internal organs including your chest, thorax, abdominal muscles, diaphragm muscles, heart, lungs, and possibly your liver, contract when you laugh.
After laughing, all systems return to normal.
This results to less stress and lower blood pressure, as well as an all-around good feeling. Good, hearty laughter is constructive and releases tension.
WARNING: Don’t be negative though, and laugh at other people’s mistakes.
Overly formal people will not buy the idea of laughing at problems, much less, laughing at yourself when you err.
Simple people are not bound by such self- imposed restrictions that feed stress out of bounds.
Laughing at your mistakes or problems is a way of telling your emotions that, “Yes, I make mistakes; but I can forgive myself and give it another try.”
This is a liberating attitude and helps to achieve simple living.
This does wonders to your mental and heart health.
Come on, everything in life is designed to be enjoyed!
- DO NOT BE A PERFECTIONIST.
Being a perfectionist sounds good a reputation to earn, but it is actually just an ego booster that enlists you, as a permanent and fierce competitor in a useless competition of proving to all that you are the best.
It only makes distress an everyday meal for you.
Some would insist that being a perfectionist is a good attitude to have, to make sure that your work quality is always top of the line.
Again, if you submit to “standards” made by some people, and if you pursue to fit into that “standard” just to earn their admiration, you are locked into the trap of self-importance; and the “standard” you follow is a false one.
In the end, all you get is an ailing body battered from an overdose of distress.
Strive to be perfect by all means, but only in character, especially on how to become more loving, forgiving, patient, understanding, meek, and simple.
Do not be a perfectionist — trying to perfect your accomplishments to prove your worth, and punishing yourself doing it — that is, if you want to live a long, happy, and healthy life.
Striving to be perfect in character is a goal that actually takes loads of stress off you.
In this case, you often just forgive and forget.
On the other hand, a perfectionist assumes to possess something that he does not actually possess – perfection
Perfectionists live a life of distress due to frustrations and undue pressure. They are usually the most discontented people and easy to disappoint.
They always have plans they carefully think of.
They feel that there should be nothing on earth to prevent them from accomplishing these plans, according to the details.
They easily get angry when some details are ignored.
These traits make for a short, unhappy, and unhealthy life.
Always be happy and thankful for what you have and for what you have achieved.
Many things we do or achieve in this life will be set aside to oblivion someday.
If remembered, they may be susceptible to evil application someday by unscrupulous future generations.
The splitting of atoms was a perfect accomplishment.
A perfectionist poured perfect attention into it.
However, later generations used it to annihilate races and nations.
Love and good character are the only endeavors worth perfecting, and they are the only lasting memories that survive generations.
- LOVE EVERYTHING.
When you focus on love as the rule of your life, everything becomes simple.
It becomes very easy for you to let go, to forgive and forget. Nothing in this life is as important as character.
People living simple lives often have enough quality time to meditate on life and realize that this philosophy is true: That there is nothing more important and sublime than to love — love God or a Higher Being, love life, and love people around you.
Some will say they are perfectionists because they love. However, note that perfectionists love nothing except people’s admiration.
The adage goes that love conquers all and never dies. Love does not conquer in ways that perfectionists do.
Most people, when they do an unsatisfactory task, will be frustrated even to the point of dire depression.
However, simple people who have mastered loving people will simply let go and think positively.
They give everybody a chance to try better next time.
The way they conquer is to always find something positive in everything, thwart unnecessary distress, and free everybody of pressure.
They are serious in matters that deal with values and character.
- STOP, LOOK, AND LISTEN.
While everybody else is busy running around beating deadlines, simple people make time to stop and watch life unfold each day.
You may find them sitting by their doorsteps quietly watching people pass by, or enjoying how the neighborhood goes about its daily routine.
Some of these people, being used to daily neighborhood activities, know what would take place at such a time in a particular spot in their street.
Simple people watch life unfold before them as a kind of meditation.
They may also engage in leisure activities such as gardening, painting, photography, or simply writing a diary.
Other people, who have the luxury of time and space (and money), leisurely walk through parks or forests to watch and enjoy nature.
They sigh and rejoice at the wonders of creation.
To busy people, these leisurely activities seem nonsense and a waste of time.
However, meditative moments like these calm the nerves and ease pressures that choke nerve points in the body, aside from taming the blood pressure.
The human body, being a “temple,” as a popular eastern belief goes, actually needs quiet and tender moments like these.
Scientifically, the mind needs rest as much as the body does.
Not even sleep can provide the mind the rest it needs, especially when schedules become too tight.
Meditation adds considerably to the ease and relaxation that the mind needs. When the mind is at rest, the body follows suit.
The seven points above are just examples of what makes a life simple.
The basic principle is that, the more you trim down your lifestyle — throwing away everything that does not help in building up good values and character, and getting rid of anything that promotes self-importance — the simpler it becomes.
In some extreme cases, people who are dead serious about having a simple life actually quit their lucrative jobs or businesses and retire with their loved ones to their chosen haven.
The idea, according to them, is that a long, healthy, and happy life is the only thing worth living for.
t has been observed that rural folks live long lives mostly because they are free from the pressures of city life.
Simple living often means less, if any, pollution – air, noise, and water. It also constitutes fewer things to worry about.
The exodus to the city from the countryside has been going on en masse, and people find it harder and harder to enjoy a peaceful, quiet, and simple life in the crowded cities.
STEP TWO - EAT RIGHT